A Year in Review and Why I Don’t Do New Year’s Resolutions
Happy New Year! I love to take this time to reflect on the past year and set myself up for the year to come. Mindset is everything, let’s start with a solid one.
2017 was the year of me. For a large majority of my life, I’ve done things to please people. I’ve done things just to make other people happy and in the end, no one is happy and I’m trapped; I’m trapped in this endless cycle of never saying “no” and never feeling satisfied.
So, for 2017, I took control of my life. I changed universities, because the original school I had chosen didn’t fit me personally. I had chosen that school because it was a prestigious university, not because I felt I fit there, and leaving was one of the biggest risks I’ve ever taken. And guess what? It was 100% worth it.
I also took a risk in deciding to compete. If you would have asked me a couple years ago if I would compete in bikini bodybuilding I would have laughed in your face. I never would have expected that I would love the process of prep and love the stage itself. Now I am preparing to compete at nationals for my pro card. Life hands us unexpected opportunities sometimes.
I learned a lot about goal setting this year. I learned to set practical goals, and definitely learned some patience in trusting the process. You can’t expect things to happen overnight, and I think that’s one of the reasons New Year’s resolutions typically fail. I learned the importance of having a plan, and the necessity in understanding that most plans require flexibility. Rarely will things happen the way you expect them. I also learned that some goals fall through. People change, and so will their goals, and you are going to have to let some goals go. Sometimes you’ll have to let goals go because you just don’t feel the spark of motivation anymore, and sometimes it just won’t be the right time for them. If you go after what you’re passionate about, it’ll always be worth your time and effort.
I don’t do New Year’s Resolutions because I believe that if you can wait till the New Year to start chasing a goal then you aren’t passionate about it in the first place. Only 8% of people complete their New Year’s resolutions so they obviously don’t work. If you want to make a change in your life, make it now. Don’t wait for Monday or next week or the first of the year. Go after goals that you’re so passionate about that you can’t wait another minute, let alone until next year.
So instead of setting new goals, I am reigniting some old hopes.
Dear 2018, please teach us to love always and without conditions.
Dear 2018, please help us to be present in the moments we encounter, and not be obsessed with what we are doing next or what we see online.
Dear 2018, please have more social and less media.
Dear 2018, please bring us peace, love, hope, Nutella, laughs, and sometimes tears, just to keep the perspective.
Dear 2018, we may not be ready for what you’re going to bring, but we sure as heck are going to make it big.
Happy 2018 guys! Let’s go after some amazing goals this year!